Sir Dr Ntumfor Barrister NICO HALLE Advises People To Take Care Of Their Parents While They Are Still Living –“It Is A Spiritual Duty To Take Care Of Your Parents”.

Sir Dr Ntumfor Barrister NICO HALLE Advises People To Take Care Of Their Parents While They Are Still Living –“It Is A Spiritual Duty To Take Care Of Your Parents”.

HALLE was the Keynote Speaker at the 8^th Commencement Ceremony at the ICT University In Yaounde, and gave a talk on INTEGRITY. At the end, he had a word for the over 300 graduating students:  “When You Start Working, Think Of Your Parents”.

HALLE regrets that there are people who don’t take care of their parents when they are alive, but when the parents pass away, they decorate the compounds, hire catering services, and so on.

 ICT University presents special award to Sir Dr Ntumfor Barrister NICO HALLE:  “You Have Been Remarkably Outstanding In Your Characteristic, Outstanding Humility And Upholding Moral Values, Ethics, And The Quest For Justice And Equity”, Prof VICTOR MBARIKA Tells HALLE.

The renowned Crusader for the respect of Core Moral Values in the society, Sir Dr Ntumfor Barrister Nico Halle, has  called on people, or better still children, to strive to take care of their parents when they are still living, asserting  that it is a spiritual duty for children to take care of their parents. “There is the adage that a child is the walking stick of the parents”, he stressed.

Halle was speaking at the 8^th commencement ceremony at the ICT University in Yaounde on Saturday, July 26, 2025. The ceremony held at the Yaounde Conference Centre. Halle who was a keynote speaker at the occasion that was great in all its forms or shapes, talked on INTEGRITY, which is a virtue. He explained that integrity, is built on core moral values that include love, peace, justice, transparency, fairness, self- control, accountability, self –discipline, equity, and above all the fear of the Lord.  Worthy of note that Nico Halle, the international legal luminary and devoted Christian, is the former National President of the Christian Men Fellowship, CMF. He is reputed for being highly spiritual, and always says that his biggest title on earth is, Christian.

“Think Of Your Parents”    

Meanwhile at the end of his talk on INTEGRITY at the 8^th Commencement Ceremony at the ICT University, Sir Dr  Ntumfor Barrister Nico Halle had a word for the over 300 students who were graduating from the ICT University on that blessed day. He congratulated the graduating students as well as the entire management and staff of the renowned technology –driven ICT University, for a job well done. Halle reminded the graduating students that their parents burnt the midnight oil to be able to sponsor them in the university.

Halle had these words for the graduating students: “When You Start Working, Think Of Your Parents, Take Care Of Your Parents. Don’t Wait, Until When They Are No More, Then You Go And Decorate The Compounds, Hire Catering Services And So On, For The Funerals. You Will Not Be Doing That For Them, For They Would Have Gone. Take Care Of Your Parents While They Are Still Living”. Halle’s message or advice was greeted with a standing ovation in the hall.

A Very Serious Issue In The Society  

Meanwhile, this irresponsible character and callousness of some people that abandon or neglect their parents, by not taking good care of them  when they are alive, is a very serious issue in the society. But unfortunately, it is rarely being talked about in public, while quite a number of parents are dying in silence. There is no doubt that some people shy away from talking on the issue because they are guilty one way or the other, and are thus conscious of the fact that they do not have the moral authority to talk on the issue.

There are in fact quite a number of parents that are dying not only from misery, but also from stress, frustration and despair, for having been abandoned or neglected  by their children that they had hoped would be their ‘walking sticks’ at old age. It was for this reason that the Mentor News contacted Sir Dr Ntumfor Nico Halle, to throw more light on the important advice that he gave to graduating students of  ICT University in Yaounde on July 26, 2025.

    Lack Of “Home Training” Or Spiritual Upbringing

The Mentor started by asking Ntumfor Halle, why he thinks some people neglect or abandon their parents,  and more so when they are very aware that their parents are in need of their assistance  or care. Halle said one of the reasons has to do with upbringing or what is commonly known as ‘home training”, which in this particular case has to do with the spiritual upbringing of children by their parents. He said some children unfortunately grow up without good home training or spiritual upbringing. He said the parents of such children are responsible for the failure on their part.  He quoted the Bible which calls on parents to bring up their children in the way of the Lord.

Halle asserted that parents are the first teachers of their children, and that they have the responsibility to strive to inculcate in their young children growing up, core moral values which include love. He explained that love as a moral value also means parents showing love to their children, and the children loving their parents.  Without the good home training or spiritual upbringing, there are children who grow up and unfortunately don’t care about showing love to their parents.

Some Parents Are Irresponsibility

Halle also regretted that there are some parents that are irresponsible, as they don’t take proper care of their children when they are growing up. There are some fathers that abandon the children to their wives or mothers of the kids to struggle to take care of them. Those irresponsible men don’t care whether the children eat or not, whether the children go to school or not.  There are some irresponsible men who have some financial means, but would not want to sponsor their children in school, and rather prefer to spend the money drinking carelessly, or spend the money on other women they keep here and there. Halle also expressed dismay that in some polygamous families in our society, it is common to hear complaints that some fathers take good care of children they have with the wives that they love most, and don’t show the same love to the children they have with their other wives. All these things make some children to grow up with a negative impression about their fathers.

Halle made it clear that he is talking here about irresponsible parents, and not parents who in reality don’t have the means to do certain things for their children. He rightly pointed out that generally, when parents don’t have the means to provide certain things to their children, the children understand and adapt to their situation, and manage with what the parents can provide them, or do for them.

Halle also noted that there are also irresponsible mothers. They don’t bother to sit down and take proper care of their children. They prefer to go wandering all over the place, drinking, gossiping and so on. There are some women that when they have the slightest problems with their husbands, they just pack their bags and leave the house, without taking into considering the situation of the children they are leaving behind. They don’t show love to their children. Such children grow up with a negative impression about their mothers.

Parents Who Don’t Show Love To Their Own Parents

Ntumfor Halle also talked of cases of some parents who don’t take care or show love to their own parents. He said children are very observant, and good at copying from their parents.  They take note of the way their parents treat their own parents, that is, the grand parents of the children. He stated that children in general take their parents as their role models, and so tend to copy what their parents do. And so parents, that do not take good care of their parents, may also suffer the same fate tomorrow, with their children treating them the same way they treated their own parents.

On the issue of some parents not having the moral authority to talk on this issue, Ntumfor Halle responded that he does not personally have any guilt on this issue, and so has the moral authority to talk on it.  “I took good care of my parents to the best of the little means that God gave me. Some of my children grew up, when thank God, my mother was still alive.  They know that besides other things I regularly did to try to take good care of my mother, I also placed her on a monthly salary, and that was always the first disbursement I made at the end of every month. I am not that type of person that says – Do what I say, and not what I do”, Ntumfor Halle said.

“Even If Your Parents Did Not Take Care Of You, Take Care Of Them”

Meanwhile, Sir Dr Ntumfor Barrister Nico Halle, prayed people who were not taken care of by their parents, to forgive them and take care of them. He asserted that two wrongs don’t make a right, and so if the parents did not take care of a child, it should not be an excuse for the person to grow up and abandon the parents.  He noted that the Bible strongly recommend that people should forgive those who wrong them, for to forgive is divine.

Halle reiterated that it is a spiritual duty of children to take care of their parents. He once again referred to the Bible or the words of God which say, children should honour their fathers and their mothers, so that their days can be long on earth.

Irresponsible Children / “Ramshackle Son Or Daughter”

Sir Dr Ntumfor Barrister Nico Halle once more, regretted that there are several cases in the society, of irresponsible people that abandon or neglect their parents that burnt the midnight oil to take care of their upbringing. “There are cases of people, males and females, who live in affluence, while their parents are dying of misery, their parents live in squalor. If you are fortunate to have some money, and you are living in a good house, while your parents are living in a ramshackle house, you are a ramshackle son or daughter”, Halle said.

Ntumfor Halle thus strongly advised people to take good care of their parents, especially when the parents don’t have, and are thus in need, or when the parents are in their old age which can be a very challenging period. He said when somebody, takes good care, of his or her parents, he or she also receives blessings from the parents.

Taking Care Of Parents Is Not Only About Money

Halle also explained that for one to take good care of his or her parents, which also means showing love to his or her parents, does not only mean to take care of their needs, but that it is also to stay in touch with them. He asserted that parents find it very warm, when their children call them to greet, to find out how they are doing, to have a chat with them. He said such calls are very important to the parents and even to their health, as the calls warm them up. He said when somebody is taking care of his or her parents’ need, and would not call from time to time just to chat with them, the parents are not that happy. He thus advised that especially now with the availability of cellphones, people should try to make calls regularly to their parents.

Ntumfor Halle also explained that somebody does not only have to give something to his or her parents, because they don’t have. He said there are parents who have the means to take care of their needs, but that anything that their children give them is so special to them, as it shows the love the children have for them. He said such gestures make the feel feel happy and proud of the children God gave them.  Halle also reiterated the fact that, when children give to their parents, they receive blessings.

 “Strive To Take Good Care Of Your Parents”

In conclusion, Sir Dr Ntumfor Barrister Nico Halle reiterated his advice for people to strive to take good care of their parents as much as their means can provide. “Don’t wait for them to die and then you write a good eulogy, you go and paint the house, buy new chairs, hires a catering service, hire dance groups, and spray money all over the place. At the end you boast that you have given your parents a befitting burial. What is befitting in that? All those things mean nothing. The fact is that you did not take good care of your parents, and now they are gone. You missed your parents’ blessings when they were alive, because you neglected them, you did not show them love while they were alive, and they have gone, not happy with you. All those things you do when they are no longer there in the name of befitting burial, is rubbish”, Halle was blunt.  “Strive to take good care of your parents while they are alive, and receive their blessings.  Again, let me say that it is a spiritual duty to take care of your parents”, Halle stressed.

ICT University Presents Special Award To Halle

Meanwhile during the 8^th Commencement Ceremony at ICT University that took place on July 26, 2025, the institution presented Sir Dr Ntumfor Barrister Nico Halle with a special award – Life Time Achievement Award.  Handing over the award to Halle, the Founder of ICT University, Prof Victor Mbarika told him: “You Have Been Remarkably Outstanding In Your Characteristic, Outstanding Humility And Upholding Moral Values, Ethics, and Quest for Justice and Equity”.

Ntumfor Halle dedicated the special award to God Almighty, to his wife (Justin Halle), to his children, to his siblings (brothers and sisters), as well as to all media organs that have been accompanying or joining him  in his peace crusading mission, as well as in his fight against hate speech, injustice, corruption, tribalism,  xenophobia, embezzlement and other ills.     

  It should be noted that the special award from the ICT University, brings to a total of 198 the number of international and national awards that Ntumfor Halle has received, or better still, that have entered the Nico Halle Award Gallery. The ICT award thus also took the Nico Halle Award Gallery much closer to the big round number, 200.